I love my Blackness and Yours.
— Deray McKesson
My parents and son

My parents and son

In today’s compromising world, all forms of love struggle to rise above the chaos of modern civilization; But it’s Black History Month and I thought it fitting to talk about how Black people have continued to carve out spaces to love amidst some of the most brutal and oppressive conditions. Black love in itself is a revolutionary act.

Black Love Is Powerful

Black people, the world over, have contributed so much to both ancient and modern culture and civilization. It is no secret that much of that contribution has gone underappreciated, unnoticed, or downright hidden. Here in the United States that reality is ever more present as we continue to experience the attack and misrepresentation of black love in the media, film, and music.  It is so important that we push back against these false narratives and highlight the importance of celebrating and demonstrating Black love, and its rich diversity, as a revolutionary act.

Black Love Threatens Oppression

My great grandmother, Mother Hamilton, was known for saying “love is a do word”. In other words, love is an act rather than a feeling. A demonstration rather than an emotion. This demonstration of love moves well beyond fleeting romance into tangible results like the nurturing of our children, food justice, celebrating self-care and rest, establishing and supporting businesses that hire Black youth, supporting Black marriage in all of its diversity, caring for our elders, honoring ancestors, ensuring the safety and protection of our families, building wealth, and taking pride in the care of our neighborhoods and communities. These are revolutionary acts of love that threaten oppression at its core.

My amazing grandparents (all praise to the ancestors)

My amazing grandparents (all praise to the ancestors)

Black Marriage Was Once Illegal

Did you know that prior to 1866 Black marriage is was illegal in the United States? Yet we loved, formed life bonds, and married anyway. This is yet another reason I fully support same sex marriage and polygamy as a civil rights. We need the freedom to generate all the love we can muster up. Black love is revolutionary.

Black Love Is A Survival Skill

Black love is complex, deep, and passionate. It’s diverse, expansive, and forgiving. It heals, overcomes, and is the cornerstone of our resilience. We must protect, uplift, and prioritize our love for one another as it has been the very glue that holds us together. Black love is how we have survived to overcome insurmountable odds.

Black Love Is Self-Love

We must love ourselves MORE then we hate our oppression and oppressors. We must redefine our standards of success in ways that prioritize our greatness rather than the hollow standards and false narratives set by the dominant culture. We must love ourselves today as an act of love for our children tomorrow. This means prioritizing health and wellness, spiritual development, self-determination, and the ability to ask for help. Self-love manifests as the alignment of body, mind, and spirit. Black love is Self- love and Black love is revolutionary.  

-- Nubian Flunder 2019